Nothing Compares – with Contentment

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I have been thinking today about a problem I have. I am always comparing myself to others..

Do you ever do that? Two things today brought that to my attention. One was a

really good post about insecurity at Beneath My Heart. The other was a podcast

I was listening to called I Quit Comparing. The podcast had a couple of quotes

that really struck home with me. One of them was this –

“Comparison brings about the death of contentment”

Wow… is that ever a true statement..and one I hadn’t really put into words before,

but I sure know how it feels. I compare myself with everyone – all the time. I know there is a fine line

between comparison and competition..I am guilty of both. And I will say that peace cannot be found in

either one. But still I do it.. One time I was on a plane and theman I was seated beside was a speed reader.

I spent the entire flight trying to read more pages than he did!  Sad huh?

In college my grade had to not just be on the top of the curve, it had to set the top of the curve.

Not surprisingly, I found myself doing this comparison thing with my blogging too. I keep looking at

other bloggers and seeing how much better they are than me.Then I wonder what I should change

to become more like them. Today I had to really look that in the face and admit it.

And the truth is – I really would rather have contentment….

So – I am going to try and keep my blog a reflection of me. And I would like to encourage

you to be yourself too. You know – the world is pretty big. There is probably room for all of us huh?

I know I will fail, but just like I keep having to remind myself that I am

content with my little brown house with a carport –

I will try to remember that I am the way God made me, and that I should celebrate my differences.

Here is the other quote from that podcast that really touched home with me –

“Success in life is not about being inferior or superior to someone else,

success is about being who God wants you to be, and not who you wish you were.”

Thanks for listening to me ramble – I so appreciate all of you and your encouragement!

So – in the spirit of celebrating who I am.

Here is a picture of me with my new ring – that matches my Kitchenaid….

Cause you know I love me some big bling..

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22 Comments

  1. Pam
    6 years ago

    Well written. I agree completely! There will always be better writers, better homes, better decorating, but we can also celebrate what makes each of us special. I enjoy your blog and look forward to your future posts.

    Have a great day.
    Pam

    admin Reply:

    Thank you so much!

  2. Karrie
    6 years ago

    Just wanted to tell you I bought two big bling rings because of you!

    I seen ’em, liked ’em, and normally wouldn’t buy or wear them, but I seen your big rings a few times and really liked them so I bought ’em this time! Love them btw :)

    K

    admin Reply:

    Yay!! I love it!

  3. April
    6 years ago

    Perfect timing. I was just complaining to my hubby earlier tonight about those same blogging (non) issues. Thanks for the reality check. 😀

  4. joanne
    6 years ago

    great post. This really touched my heart today as I have/am struggling with this ‘competition’ thing and it is wearing me out. I saw a sign a few days ago that said..”when you stop competing with yourself you will finally win.” wow, isn’t that the truth! Best wishes to you and I’m here cheering you on..;j

    admin Reply:

    I need that sign!

  5. Angela Gifford
    6 years ago

    This is a perpetual challenge for me. I read “So Long Insecurity” by Beth Moore recently, and “God Loves Ugly” by Christa Black. Both are on just that topic. I find it really challenging as a blogger to stay true to my style and writing while worrying about how popular it will be in comparison with all the other zillion blogs out there. I’m constantly having to refocus!

  6. Christy@ Life, Made Interesting
    6 years ago

    You are real, and I know that’s why I always enjoy reading your blog. I struggle with the same thing. I live in a county that hits the top of the “wealthiest” in the nation. I say “wealthiest” in quotes, because it’s the select few that throw our numbers way off. So from homes to clothes to expensive decor to jets/Mercedes/Hummers/etc, we compare ourselves way too often. Contentment is a struggle that I work on daily. Thanks for posting this.

  7. adrienne
    6 years ago

    I am new to your blog–in the last few months–and i love reading your blog because you are different. being the same as everyone else is boring. you are your best you when you are truly being who God made you to be. I sometimes struggle with who exactly that is at times though! ha! Enjoy your day of contentment!

  8. Arlene@At Home With the Grimms
    6 years ago

    Totally understand!! I think that the internet, while a great thing, brings many opportunities to compare ourselves to others. I admit that I have looked at other blogs and wished that my own blog was so popular. I read Facebook and envy those who are traveling off to new places. Then I tell myself that I am blessed beyond measure by all that God has given me. Some days I have to tell myself that quite often!!:) Thanks for sharing your heart with us.

  9. Kelsie
    6 years ago

    Thank you for this little wake up call.

    BTW I love your blog and it’s little carport *hugs*

    Blessings Kelsie

  10. Bella Michelle
    6 years ago

    Thanks so much for the reminder. I didn’t start blogging to compete and I always need to make sure I am doing just to do it, rather than being someone I am not. BTW, love your blingtastic ring!

  11. cyndi
    6 years ago

    I struggle with the comparison, but not the competitive issue. I internalize those feelings. Verbalizing those feelings to friends just leads to compliments that make me feel more uncomfortable! Can you say “viscous circle!!!” Sounds like you are making headway with your struggles. I love your blog. I’m always disappointed when I log on and there isn’t a new post, as I always am interested in what you are up to. Keep ’em coming!!! Good luck.

  12. The Lumberjack's Wife
    6 years ago

    Thanks for sharing your heart! I know I am guilty of comparison, too.

  13. ingrid
    6 years ago

    i am soooo guilty of this and i loved to read that i am not the only one! great post! good thinking. i will try keep reminding me to be ME too!

  14. Miss Em
    6 years ago

    I think “comparing” is human nature. We learn from comparing and can be better by comparing. I don’t think comparing is the evil, I think jealousy, uncontentment (is that a word) is the evil. I am the wife of a man that is constantly trying to “keep up with the Jones” I guess you could say and it drive me crazy. Why can’t he be happy with what we have because we have so much? Am I not good enough because he wants everything that everyone else has? I am constantly trying to remind him that he needs to be grateful for what he has and been present with his family. I guess I just wanted to tell you the other side of the coin, how uncontentment can affect those closest to you. Which I guess if you think about it means that I am not content with my husbands uncontentment…Ha!

  15. Heather
    6 years ago

    Im guilty of the exact same thing. Its a constant struggle to embrace the uniqueness of “me.” Thank you for sharing.

  16. Judy
    6 years ago

    My favorite quote: It’s not having what you want; it’s wanting what you’ve got. That is actually a quote from a pop song a while back, but I think Jesus told us the same thing in different words!

    The greatest blessing God has given me is contentment. It was a long time in coming, as He had much to teach me, but I am content. Sure, I’d like to paint this room or rip up that old floor, but I have no desire for a bigger house. I wish I could put up the window in my van without using two hands, but I have no desire for a luxury vehicle. This is not some state of mind I’ve “earned” or “acquired” through any feat of my own…it is simply a gracious gift I’ve received. It’s my favorite!

    What I want to say is…please don’t try to make your blog like anyone else’s. I love yours just the way it is. The more “real’ you are, the more I can relate to you. I admired the heck out of you when you showed us your bunions. REALLY. I was very proud of you. You also admitted to a little “virtual face job” by photoshopping out some wrinkles. Not everyone would do that. BUT…when you showed us what the “Little Brown House” really looks like from the street, I became your fan forever!!! I always saw the beautiful pictures of the inside of your house, and just thought “she has a beautiful home.” Your inside pictures look like they were cut from a magazine. It never even OCCURRED to me that you live in a regular everyday ranch house like mine! Again, I could relate to you!

    Anybody could make a mansion look impressive, or buy a wardrobe at Von Mahr and look all “uptown”. That’s just throwing money at things. YOUR specialness is that you take plain rectangular rooms and make them look special. You take your $5.00 clearance rack item and make it look like super chic. You dig dollar store finds. You are a real person.

    It’s not having what you want; it’s wanting what you’ve got. I think that you, in your Little Brown House, absolutely ROCK that.

    admin Reply:

    This brought me to tears – it is the sweetest comment, and I will treasure it – thank you.

  17. Demelza
    6 years ago

    One of my favorite signs, outside the tiny church where my brother got married, said: “Let us be thankful for all the things we do not have.” Words to live by.

  18. Kathy
    6 years ago

    Okay girlfriend -I always compare my weight! Sad as we both know- Now I know I am one little reader out here but I’ve been watching you just blossom in your blog posts. I want to remind you you do this blog all while working more than 40 hours a week -sure you would love to be home ( well maybe not) but look what you could create if you were a full time homemaker ! But that would be so unfair to yourself, your church and your co-workers -I bet you have no idea how many people see you as their role model! Your home is absolutely beautiful. You rock your non-granny outfits and you are really funny –I have no idea what God has in store for you but I can guarantee there is something wonderful for you -you are touching so many women’s lifes just on this blog -you are truly amazing ! You are unstopable ! (( hugs))

  19. Jamison
    6 years ago

    What a wonderful, honest post. Thank you for making me feel not so lonely in this area.

    I have struggled with comparison so much over the past two years–my husband was laid off and (I’m embarrassed to even say this) I feel like we have watched all of our friends succeed and do more, buy more, be more. It humbled me and really made me look at what makes me ME, why God loves me, and how I should live in light of that love.

    My husband got a job over Christmas (thank you Lord) and I’ve noticed something funny….my prayer life is so full of thanksgiving and praise to what God is doing that I don’t have time to complain, compare, or feel insecure about “all the vain things that charmed me most…”

  20. Lynne
    6 years ago

    Boy, did this blog post come just in the nick of time! I struggle with comparison in the worst way! As I read your post, I kept thinking,”what in the world would she feel inferior for?” I mean you are skinny, adorable, have a beautiful home! I think you have it made. It’s funny how we never can see ourselves as others see us. I’m fat and always think that makes me “less than” all you skinny girls. I guess society is always putting down fat people so its easy to feel like I don’t belong. Then I hear my friends micro managing every class every activity their kids do, that I feel that I’m a bad parent because I make my kids figure things out on their own. I don’t push them into things they don’t want to do. Sure I require them to do chores and maintain good grades, but I don’t choose their classes for them. Then I wonder if that makes me a bad parent. But in my heart I know my kids have good hearts and good heads on their shoulders. So, maybe I am doing something right.
    Y O U are what so many of us wish we were. Just keep staying real. You have your priorities straight and are in a better place than most! I love your blog so please don’t change!

  21. jan
    6 years ago

    Very well said sister!

  22. Elizabeth
    5 years ago

    Great post! I totally agree! I love the way you are choosing to be who you were created to be and not comparing yourself to others!!